Be Present【陪在我身邊】

breakup

[Be Present]

By: KOH Jia Xin (HSBC Prosperity Hall)

Image: http://www.ibelieve.com

 When I was fifteen, my friend Gracia cried when we were having dessert at an ice-cream shop. I knew it was her boyfriend—no, an ex-boyfriend—because girls at our age do not get upset easily at life other than guys. But I couldn’t feel what she felt, because I’ve never had one at fifteen. She used to be so confident and undefeatable but she was very vulnerable after the breakup. I stayed with her until our moms came and fetched us home. I thought, maybe, if I had an experience, I would know better how to comfort her or give some advices.

Obviously, I was wrong. I did experience a breakup a year soon after it. It was harsh, the breakup I mean. Like what everyone says, it felt like the end of the world. I was helpless but I remember what I needed the most during that time: a true friend to be present, not saying much or even giving advices, because they will never truly understand what I go through. But being there, not judging my endless moaning and howling, and tell me that they will never leave me. You are not alone, for after every storm, there comes clear open skies.

【陪在我身邊】

文:辜嘉歆 (滙豐業昕堂)

圖:www.ibelieve.com

十五歲,冰淇淋店,伊萱哭了。我知道是因為她的男朋友,不,是前男友。我們這個年紀的女生不會無端端因為生活而沮喪,那就只剩下男生了。當時的我體會不了她的悲傷,我從來沒交往過。以前的她是多麼有自信和堅強,現在在我面前的她卻非常脆弱。我陪她一直到媽媽來接我們回家。我想,如果我有類似的經驗,我就知道該如何安慰她或給點意見吧。

明顯的,我錯了。一年後,我也經歷了分手。就像大家所說的,失戀就如世界末日。我非常無助,但我記得我最需要的:一個真心的朋友,不說話,不給意見,因為他們不可能了解我經歷過的。不過,陪在我身邊,不被我的大哭大鬧,無理取鬧給嚇到,然後告訴我,他們永遠不會離開我。你並不孤單,風雨後,是藍天。

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