[Dealing with Polar Opposites]【和而不同】

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[Dealing with Polar Opposites]

By: Dazi CREMONITA (Jockey Club Academy Hall)
Image: Andy Warhol Polaroid Portraits

Rather than punching them in the face, maybe we should be the ones to look inside ourselves.

People are different. Bottom line. You can never expect anyone to like, dislike, agree or disagree with the things you do. Why should they? In your mind, “I like this piece of music and EVERYONE SHOULD TOO AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT! I can’t understand anyone who doesn’t like this! This is a piece of genius!” Here’s the thing, some people just like different things. Maybe they’re basis for liking something is different than yours. It’s the same as you not liking the same things.

What’s dangerous about human beings is that we think we’re always right. Even when you think other people are wrong, you think you’re correct. The way to loosen up is by knowing that there is no right or wrong. The reason we have formulas, traditions, or concepts is to make sense of things in this unpredictable nature. A lot of the times people seem to be very vocal about their opinions, and most of the times those opinions come from their own insecurities. It’s like dealing with picky eaters. They eat what they know for sure is good. They would never try unfamiliar food because they’re afraid of bad taste, denying any possibility of a good eating experience. If that is their reasoning for argument, it’s always good to step back. Nothing comes good from talking back to hurt, or to proof you’re right. Another way to handle it is by asking questions. Even when reluctant, ask them questions on why they feel such a way, or why they believe in certain things. Know that there is always a reasoning behind their beliefs, which may not make any sense to you, but makes perfect sense to them.

Seriously, stop judging everyone’s differences and start appreciating them instead.



文: Dazi CREMONITA (賽馬會群智堂)
圖: 安迪沃荷寶利來作品





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