[When No Means No]
By LIM, Hanna Suchanya (Lee Shau Kee Hall)
It’s a Friday night and the whole week has just been a blur of assignments and exams. You just need a break with your friends and why not? Go blow of some steam by having a few drinks. You are surrounded by your best friends who are laughing and joking around; the drinks are flowing and so is the good conversation.
Now, I do not mean to sound patronizing – spending time with friends is very important but during situations like this, you need to be aware of the company you are with. Just because you know the person, whether it is your classmate, best friend, or a significant other, if they force a sexual act upon you without your consent, something is not right. This may be regarded as acquaintance or date rape, something that is more common than people like to acknowledge.
I understand that people don’t walk around with signs on their head saying, “Potential sexual predator” because sometimes they might not even be aware of their own actions.
To avoid unwelcome advances, be smart: watch your drink, have a sober mind and don’t walk into that dark alley! If the pursuer is drunk, get help and make it clear that a “No” simply means No.
文: LIM, Hanna Suchanya (李兆基堂)
譯: 楊雅怡 (賽馬會群智堂)