[When No Means No] 【不要就是不要】

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[When No Means No]

By LIM, Hanna Suchanya (Lee Shau Kee Hall)
Image: http://www.nomeansno-ep.org

It’s a Friday night and the whole week has just been a blur of assignments and exams. You just need a break with your friends and why not? Go blow of some steam by having a few drinks. You are surrounded by your best friends who are laughing and joking around; the drinks are flowing and so is the good conversation.

Now, I do not mean to sound patronizing – spending time with friends is very important but during situations like this, you need to be aware of the company you are with. Just because you know the person, whether it is your classmate, best friend, or a significant other, if they force a sexual act upon you without your consent, something is not right. This may be regarded as acquaintance or date rape, something that is more common than people like to acknowledge.

I understand that people don’t walk around with signs on their head saying, “Potential sexual predator” because sometimes they might not even be aware of their own actions.

To avoid unwelcome advances, be smart: watch your drink, have a sober mind and don’t walk into that dark alley! If the pursuer is drunk, get help and make it clear that a “No” simply means No.

【不要就是不要】

文: LIM, Hanna Suchanya (李兆基堂)
譯: 楊雅怡 (賽馬會群智堂)
圖: http://www.nomeansno-ep.org

這是一個週五的晚上,你和一班同學整個星期都困在作業和考試堆中,何不趁機休息休息?你和好友們說說笑笑、杯酒言歡,無聊快樂的時光真好。

我不是要故作老成,也不打算當道德衛士──和朋友共聚的時光固然重要,但在這種容易情迷意亂的情況下,你需多加留意自己身邊的人。即使你認識這個人,無論是同學,還是老友,甚至愛人,若對方未經你同意強行作出性行為,這是不對的。這種來自熟人或約會的強姦行為,實際情況比大眾所願意承認的數字更為常見。

潛在性侵犯者的額頭上不會大刺刺的刻著字,因為有時候他們未必能馬上為意到自己的行為對你有多大的傷害。

因此,為了避免受到性侵犯,你應當保持醒覺:留意你的飲料是否安全,保持頭腦清醒,回家時千萬別抄暗巷!如果對方喝醉了,尋求協助,並表明不要就是不要。

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