Uni? U-N-I? You and I? / 大學戀愛——必修課?

(按此看中文版)

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Romance smells like freshly cut daises just as I imagine how deforestation would smell like.  It looks pretty on the surface but in all honesty it’s just a call for an allergic reaction from pollen – perhaps even a bee sting.

I take on this view because I’m a person who can barely take care of myself, how can I expect myself to care for another human being? Hall return, GPA, social life, sleep – fitting a relationship into all of this would be chaotic. It is something that takes energy and time to be maintained and if it does not last in the future then, why bother?

I am a firm believer that there are only two perspectives to this topic which is divided by a clear line: skeptical people like me against people who are more positive about relationships.

I try to understand those who are in a relationship and seem to be galloping on their rainbow unicorn with their prince or princess (or two princes or princesses, I ain’t hating) into the blazing sunset. University is all about trial and error, here you can try all sorts of new things and not be scared of judgment. It can be a learning point in preparation for your future relationships. A wise friend once told me that it reduces stress and you never have to sit alone for lunch.

But for those who want to be in a relationship just so you can show off your boyfriend or girlfriend as if they were an accessory is something you should reconsider.  Don’t compare yourself to others and be pressured to have #RelationshipGoals.

Just be happy with yourself, whether you are in a relationship or single.

Writer:   Julianne DIONISIO (Jockey Club Humanity Hall)
Image:   HJ Story

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浪漫的味道就像新摘下來的雛菊,就像我曾想像的,移開整座森林的味道。但掩蓋在它漂亮外表下的的可能只是讓你花粉過敏甚至被蜜蜂蟄傷的危險。

我這麽看待愛情是因為我本來已經不太懂得照顧自己,我完全無法想像自己去照顧另一個人。回宿、GPA、社交生活、睡眠,讓本就忙碌的生活亂入一場無端的戀情只會讓這一切混亂不已。既然愛情需要大量時間精力去呵護才能長久,那為什麽還非要苦苦祈求一段愛情不可呢?

我堅定地相信,關於愛情,這世上只有兩種界限分明的觀點:像我一樣對愛情持懷疑態度的人和對愛情充滿嚮往的人。

我試圖去理解那些沈浸在浪漫愛情中的人,他們永遠一副像是正在和自己的王子/公主(當然兩個王子或是兩個公主我也不反感)騎在彩虹獨角獸上飛奔向遠方燦爛日落的模樣。大學是一個讓我們學會不斷嘗試的地方,在這裏你永遠不用懼怕別人對你的評價。它能讓你為你未來的戀情做好準備。一個開明的朋友曾經告訴我戀愛讓人釋放壓力,並且戀愛中的人永遠不用擔心被一個人吃飯的孤獨所折磨。

但是對於那些只是為了像炫耀首飾一樣炫耀自己有男朋友/女朋友而急於交往的人,或許你們應該再考慮一下。何苦總是拿自己和別人比較,陷入為了戀愛而戀愛的壓力之中呢?

接受自己並且好好生活吧,無論你有沒有找到那個TA。

文:   Julianne DIONISIO (賽馬會敬賢堂)
譯:   陳妍宇 (舍堂十)
圖:   HJ Story

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