For the longest time, there’s a well-known curse among us Indonesians at CityU, that we are to be single as long as we are at this school. Yes, it only applies to Indonesians and Indonesians at CityU. However, whether you are single, in a relationship, or whether you are not Indonesian, I think you can definitely learn from Korean residents MYEONG Jinyoung (Residence Tutor, Sir Gordon and Lady Ivy Wu Hall, Year 4, Asian and International Studies) and KIM Dok Rae (Sir Gordon and Lady Ivy Wu Hall, Year 3, Information Management).
The compassionate behaviour of the other was what interested both ends at first. Jinyoung in particular, displayed a lot of affection to Rae when he was the newbie in her circle. And although her friends were not as supportive, Jinyoung was committed to keep the relationship going. Their gradual change from strangers to good friends eventually led to a serious relationship as a romantic duo. Jinyoung, having dated a local, working professional, said that the language barrier caught up with both of them. With Rae, she could express herself way better. Nevertheless, like most couples, their conflicting personalities challenged the relationship in the beginning. In the interview, Jinyoung admitted that she was okay with texting/contacting 3-4 times a week, whereas Rae displayed his need of meeting/contacting her girlfriend everyday.
However, despite their differences, it was evident that both sides made the conscious effort to building a strong, mutual respect. Rae gave the advice that when having troubles in relationships, talking in person is the way to go. No texting, just talk. Jinyoung complemented the advice by saying that while our tendency of reaching out to friends for advice is okay, working things out within themselves has helped them bring the best out of the relationship.
For those who are single:
Jinyoung: I think it’s better for them (potential couples) to be friends first, because that was what we did.
Rae: You get to see each other in a casual setting first.
Jinyoung: And if he happens to be the right person for her, or vice versa, the relationship will continue.
Rae: It’s nearly impossible to know whether that person is right for you (in the beginning). You have to date for at least one year to get to know him/her.
For those who are looking to building a healthier relationship, or those in a struggling relationship:
Rae: You have to talk everyday. Don’t just talk about your problems through text, you have to see them in person.
Jinyoung: If you have something in your mind, don’t keep it to yourself.
Rae: You’re gonna fight a lot, but if you overcome those difficulties, that person could definitely be the right man/woman for you.
When asked about future plans, the couple revealed their frequent discussion due to Jinyoung’s upcoming graduation and Rae’s enlistment to the military. However, no solid plans have been made.
To end, ResLink would like to thank Jinyoung and Rae for doing this interview and being very open about their relationship. Wish you the best!
Writer: Dazi CREMONITA
Images: MYEONG Jinyoung (Sir Gordon and Lady Ivy Wu Hall), KIM Dok Rae (Sir Gordon and Lady Ivy Wu Hall)
文: Dazi CREMONITA
譯: 黎彥東 (胡應湘爵士伉儷堂)
圖: 明真榮 (胡應湘爵士伉儷堂)、金德來 (胡應湘爵士伉儷堂)