“Eh, I don’t like him anymore.” “What, why?”, said a friend acting surprised to my predictable change of mind. My crushes usually last for 5 days, which was exactly why I have yet to comprehend how my parents handled each other for 22 years and still going strong, let alone understand how university couples can last for more than 2 years.
Jockey Club Academy Hall alumni Jenna SON (Graduate of 2016, Human Resources Management) and Terence LEE (Graduate of 2016, Media and Communication) met each other in the SR and have been together for almost 4 years – we can all take down a note or two about how they value their relationship.
What’s the timeline of your love-story like?
“Our first conversation ever was on Facebook,” said the couple. Yes, credits given to the Facebook group called Hello International 2013-14 set up for international freshmen students of Terence and Jenna’s batch (the couple came from Singapore and South Korea respectively) – they were able to meet even before seeing each other in person.
After a month of knowing each other, they went to Victoria Harbor and confessed their desires to take things seriously. A MONTH?! Chemistry was just too strong I guess! – “No, it’s just we met every single day along with a group of friends,” which built a quick foundation for their relationship.
“I still see her everyday.” added Terence.
Do you know each other’s career goals? How do you balance your career goals with your love life?
Terence exclaimed about Jenna’s high expectation – “Bottom line is she wants to be at the top doing what she wants”. Both of them are passionate about starting something on their own. Ambitious and forward-looking, yet willing to lay down their interests for the sake of the achievement of their partner.
“We wouldn’t mind compromising our own goals. I’m willing to sacrifice my time and place just to see her achieve what she wants and I think she would do the same for me,” said Terence firmly yet full of affection.
What is your secret in keeping a strong relationship?
“I believe in staying committed. It’s easy to say I give up or I don’t want do this anymore.” Even though no one has ever seen them ever fight or even act lukewarm around each other, they honestly confessed that they go through arguments like normal couples do.
“Saying sorry is important.” Terence said that you need to learn how to say this simple word as it shows that you are willing to put your pride down for your girl. “Yeah, even if it’s not your fault,” humorously contributed by Jenna, “Try to understand each other, if you can’t you won’t even last a year.” She says that girls should lower their demands – girls aren’t supposed to be treated better than guys.
I’m not in a relationship, any advice that I can take from you?
“DON’T BELIEVE IN FIRST IMPRESSION!” Reflected by Jenna. most guys often hide their personality, and initially, she thought Terence was really weird but everything changed as she got to know him.
It’s important to “go out there and join university events” to meet more people with an open mindset. They didn’t mean lurking for partners in a creepy way, but just being proactive in meeting new friends, initially looking for friends and then seeing from there.
Writer: Julianne DIONISIO (Jockey Club Humanity Hall)
Images: Jenna SON & Terrance LEE (Alumni of Jockey Club Academy Hall)
文: Julianne DIONISIO (賽馬會敬賢堂)
譯: 陳妍宇 (舍堂十)
圖: 孫珠瑛及李若隆 (賽馬會群智堂舊生)