Only to the Struggling / 致掙扎奮鬥中的你

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Whether you’re struggling personally, professionally, academically or otherwise, I’m sincerely here to help. Here are 10 things that I want to say to you, as a struggling student myself:

  1. Believe in yourself: learn to be your own cheerleader. If everyone’s against you, at least one person is there to support you.
  2. Be grateful for the smallest of things: you’re alive, that’s a good enough reason.
  3. You can cry for an hour, but then force yourself to go out and do something. Eat, write, draw, get out of bed, whatever. When you’re struggling, celebrating seemingly small accomplishments can help you gain your confidence.
  4. Whatever your position is right now, it’s doesn’t define your future. You still have the same chance to change the world as anyone else.
  5. When people rub their GPAs and scholarships in your face, kindly smile and walk away.
  6. When people complain about how fabulous their life is, kindly smile and walk away.
  7. You don’t have to proof anything to your parents, friends, anyone, or yourself.
  8. Trust me, it’s gonna get better. You really just have to believe in yourself.
  9. Be kind to yourself. If you fail worse than everyone else, improve yourself. You can change only when you want to.
  10. Just laugh it out. Life is ridiculous anyways.

Kindness towards yourself and others is a choice.

Writer:   Dazi CREMONITA
Image:   www.womansday.com

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無論你是因個人問題,職業規劃,學術道路,或是其他緣由而陷入了困境,苦於掙扎,我都在此真誠地伸出援助之手。作為一個同樣掙扎奮鬥著的學生,我有10點建議想要與你分享:

  1. 相信自己:要學著為自己吶喊助威—即使周遭都是反對的聲音,你還可以堅定支持自己。
  2. 為最不起眼的小事心懷感激:你還在人生道路上求索,這就足以感激和歡欣。
  3. 你可以哭上一小時。但之後,即使是強迫自己,你也要出去走走,做些其他事。去覓食,去寫作,去畫畫,總之是不能賴在床上。於痛苦掙紮時,為一切看似細微的成就而歡欣,能讓你更加自信。
  4. 無論你現在的位置如何,這都不能決定你的未來。你與其他所有人一樣,都有同等的機會去改變這個世界。
  5. 若是有人在你面前反復炫耀他們的績點和獎學金,你大可微微一笑,瀟灑走開。
  6. 若是有人向你甜蜜地抱怨,以顯示自己過得有多好,你亦可微微一笑,瀟灑走開。
  7. 不必將事事都擺到父母面前,不必非要向他們證明自己。
  8. 相信我,事情總會好起來。你真的只需要給自己一點信心。
  9. 善待自己。如果你覺得自己落敗得很慘,那麽就去提升自我。只有真的渴望改變,你才能實現它。
  10. 笑對人生,因為生活本就荒誕不經。

你可選擇善待自己,並與人為善。

相信我,你有這個選擇權。

作者:   Dazi CREMONITA
譯:   李怡靜 (舍堂十)
圖:   www.womansday.com

Working Through the Differences / 難過難過仍捱得過

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For the longest time, there’s a well-known curse among us Indonesians at CityU, that we are to be single as long as we are at this school. Yes, it only applies to Indonesians and Indonesians at CityU. However, whether you are single, in a relationship, or whether you are not Indonesian, I think you can definitely learn from Korean residents MYEONG Jinyoung (Residence Tutor, Sir Gordon and Lady Ivy Wu Hall, Year 4, Asian and International Studies) and KIM Dok Rae (Sir Gordon and Lady Ivy Wu Hall, Year 3, Information Management).

The compassionate behaviour of the other was what interested both ends at first. Jinyoung in particular, displayed a lot of affection to Rae when he was the newbie in her circle. And although her friends were not as supportive, Jinyoung was committed to keep the relationship going. Their gradual change from strangers to good friends eventually led to a serious relationship as a romantic duo. Jinyoung, having dated a local, working professional, said that the language barrier caught up with both of them. With Rae, she could express herself way better. Nevertheless, like most couples, their conflicting personalities challenged the relationship in the beginning. In the interview, Jinyoung admitted that she was okay with texting/contacting 3-4 times a week, whereas Rae displayed his need of meeting/contacting her girlfriend everyday.

However, despite their differences, it was evident that both sides made the conscious effort to building a strong, mutual respect. Rae gave the advice that when having troubles in relationships, talking in person is the way to go. No texting, just talk. Jinyoung complemented the advice by saying that while our tendency of reaching out to friends for advice is okay, working things out within themselves has helped them bring the best out of the relationship.

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For those who are single:

Jinyoung: I think it’s better for them (potential couples) to be friends first, because that was what we did.

Rae: You get to see each other in a casual setting first.

Jinyoung: And if he happens to be the right person for her, or vice versa, the relationship will continue.

Rae: It’s nearly impossible to know whether that person is right for you (in the beginning). You have to date for at least one year to get to know him/her.

For those who are looking to building a healthier relationship, or those in a struggling relationship:

Rae: You have to talk everyday. Don’t just talk about your problems through text, you have to see them in person.

Jinyoung: If you have something in your mind, don’t keep it to yourself.

Rae: You’re gonna fight a lot, but if you overcome those difficulties, that person could definitely be the right man/woman for you.

When asked about future plans, the couple revealed their frequent discussion due to Jinyoung’s upcoming graduation and Rae’s enlistment to the military. However, no solid plans have been made.

To end, ResLink would like to thank Jinyoung and Rae for doing this interview and being very open about their relationship. Wish you the best!

Writer:   Dazi CREMONITA
Images:   MYEONG Jinyoung (Sir Gordon and Lady Ivy Wu Hall), KIM Dok Rae (Sir Gordon and Lady Ivy Wu Hall)

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一直以來,我們印尼人註定都打破不了只要一天還在城大,一天都是單身的宿命。無論你是單身與否、印尼人與否,我認為大家也可以從韓籍生明真榮(Jinyoung)胡應湘爵士伉儷堂導師/亞洲及國際學系四年級)金德來(Rae)胡應湘爵士伉儷堂/資訊管理系三年級)身上學習。

德來和真榮最先被對方的真誠善良所吸引,大家都非常欣賞對方有愛心的一面。他們經共同朋友介紹後,由一起閒逛繼而約會,慢慢培養出感情。在戀愛初期,真榮的朋友圈都沒有太看好這段感情,她卻一心堅持與德來走下去。曾經和本地人交往的她,在上一段戀情中因語言障礙而產生了溝通問題。遇到同為韓國人的德來,大家自然同聲同氣。不過,和普通情侶一樣,兩人在性格上的差異確實在戀情剛萌芽時遭遇了不少衝擊和挑戰,例如真榮會認為雙方一星期只聯絡三至四次並無不妥,而德來則希望每天都能見到她。

儘管如此,他們仍努力建立一個親密又互相尊重的關係。德來認為,當關係出現問題,不可以單靠短訊互動,只有與另一半面對面談清楚才可以真正解決問題。真榮更補充到,他們雖然也會尋求朋友們的意見,但最後必須雙方一起解決問題,才有望增進二人的感情。

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給單身朋友的意見:

真榮表示:就如我們一樣,要成為戀人,應該先從朋友開始做起。如果他就是對的人,關係順其自然就會來,反之亦然。」
德來:開始的時候根本不可能知道那個人是不是適合你的人,至少也要一年的時間去真正認識他/她吧。

 

對於希望建立一段健康的關係或正在一段關係中苦苦掙扎的人:

德來:你們需要每天都溝通,千萬別靠發短訊去解決問題,要面對面討論。
真榮:不要把問題藏在心底。
德來:你可能會經常吵架,當問題解決過後你就知道對方是否適合成為你的另一半了。

當我詢問到關於將來的計劃時,真榮表示她快將面對畢業,而德來則要服兵役,似乎仍未有實質的規劃。

《宿生緣》在此感謝真榮和德來接受訪問,並向我們坦誠分享他們的交往經歷。祝好!

文:   Dazi CREMONITA
譯:   黎彥東 (胡應湘爵士伉儷堂)
圖:   明真榮 (胡應湘爵士伉儷堂)、金德來 (胡應湘爵士伉儷堂)

Bridging Cultures / 書法為橋 文化交築

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Mr. CHAN Mong Biu teaches calligraphy one stroke at a time. / 陳夢標老師一筆一劃地為同學們演示書法的魅力。
Frequent practice is the key to success for Chinese calligraphy. / 中國書法講求不斷練習,方見進步。
Frequent practice is the key to success for Chinese calligraphy. / 中國書法講求不斷練習,方見進步。

Two years ago, CityU held a series of calligraphy classes in the underground rooms of the library. Filled with mostly exchange students and those who wanted to be more acquainted with the Chinese language (one of them being me), the class aimed to bridge the gap between distinct cultures. This year, they are back and running, holding 4 classes at the Multi-function Hall B and are led by Mr. CHAN Mong Biu, the Honorary Chairman of Hong Kong Calligraphy Association, and students from Calligraphantasy.

Last Thursday, I went to take a look to see what the class was up to. Students were to try and write a 4-character proverb — “溫故知新” (wēn gù zhī xīn) (which literally means discovering new inspirations by reviewing old knowledge as advocated by Confucius) — in both clerical and classical style. Despite having no Chinese or calligraphy background, Mariana PÉREZ-BOBADILLA (Hall 8), a Creative Media PhD student from Mexico, was very much interested in delving into something unique to the Chinese culture. This was her third time joining the class. She commented that this calligraphy class, whilst being a joyous activity, required immense focus. On the other spectrum, we have CHEOK Gwan Yong (Lee Shau Kee Hall), a freshman from the Department of Architecture and Civil Engineering from Malaysia. Having tried calligraphy back in secondary school, he was also familiar with Chinese and Cantonese. He posed a great interest in trying out calligraphy once more, joining in with a bunch of friends.

What really stroke me about the class was just how involved the helpers were. Every now and then they would checkup on students on their progress, initiating light conversations and improving strokes one at a time. Mr. Chan too will, go around to give advice as to how they can improve. From the beginning, Mr. Chan insisted that practice is key. From using analogies to other kinds of visualisations, Mr. Chan wanted students to understand that every stroke matter.

These calligraphy classes will continue to run at Multi-function Hall B, Student Residence, for free from 7PM to 8:30PM tonight and on 3 Nov 2016 (Thursday).  Come and join the fun!

(This series of workshops is co-hosted between Run Run Shaw Library, Student Residence Office, Global Services Office, Department of Chinese & History, and Calligraphantasy.)

Calligraphy is an art for everyone. / 書法是一種老幼咸宜的藝術。
Calligraphy is an art for everyone. / 書法是一種老幼咸宜的藝術。

Writer:   Dazi CREMONITA (Jockey Club Academy Hall)
Photographer:   Yikki LAM (Lee Shau Kee Hall)

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Asking for advice from the expert. / 虛心學習。
Asking for advice from the expert. / 虛心學習。
Learn calligraphy together. / 一起練習書法。
Learn calligraphy together. / 一起練習書法。

兩年前,城大在圖書館底層課室舉辦了一系列書法班,希望築起中西文化的橋樑。席上多是交流生,包括我在內,都興致勃勃的,想透過書法加深對中國語文的認識。書法班今年載譽回歸,於宿舍綜合禮堂B進行。今次請來了香港書法家協會陳夢標榮譽會長親自教授和墨袖齋的學生在旁助教。

昨日,我特意到場觀課,同學正努力以隸書及楷書寫出「溫故知新」這四字成語(「溫故知新」出自《論語‧為政篇》:「溫故而知新,可以為師矣。」,意指從溫習舊有知識的過程中,往往可以得到新的體會和理解)。舍堂八宿生Mariana PÉREZ-BOBADILLA來自墨西哥,正修讀創意媒體博士學位,雖然不會中文,也不懂書法,但仍展現滿腔熱誠,想深入探究中國文化的特色。今堂是她的第三節課,她覺得書法班有趣同時需要非常專注。另一邊廂,來自馬來西亞的李兆基堂一年級宿生CHEOK Gwan Yong(建築學及土木工程學)在中學時期就曾寫過書法,也很熟悉廣東話和普通話,所以特別想和朋友一起參加,重拾書法的趣味。

不過,最令我驚訝的是學生助手都不遺餘力地幫忙。他們不時會跟進同學進度,主動找話題,又會逐筆逐劃地協助同學去進步。陳先生亦會給予意見,他一開初,已經語重心長地強調勤練習的重要。他為了讓同學明白一勾一勒都不可輕看,採用多種教學方式,例如類比和形象化等。

對書法有興趣的同學們,均可於今夜或11月3日(星期四)晚七點到八點半前來宿舍綜合禮堂B 加入練字行列,切勿錯過!

(這一系列工作坊由學生宿舍處、邵逸夫圖書館、環球事務處、中文及歷史學系及墨袖齋共同舉辦。)

A student helper guides a participant stroke by stroke. / 助教學生耐心地指導著同學書寫的秘訣。
A student helper guides a participant stroke by stroke. / 助教學生耐心地指導著同學書寫的秘訣。
文:   Dazi CREMONITA (賽馬會群智堂)
譯:   楊雅怡
攝:   林奕淇 (李兆基堂)